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Changing Self-image; You can become your own cosmetic surgeon
self image articles by Lyn Collett

Simply by removing all your inner scars, created by your thinking up to now, all the stuff you’ve been holding onto as your excuse not to move forward with whatever it is you know you can be, do or have.

Whether its weight loss, the job you want to get, the relationship of your dreams, or the income you know you deserve. By replacing the old thinking patterns with new improved ones you can change any situation if you’re willing to do the work.

It might just be me, because I’m getting older; however it seems to me today there is so much emphasis placed on external appearance.

Women and men are now going to clinics and having all sorts of operations, treatments, and injections to make them appear younger, better looking etc.

What I see is we have forgotten about the inside of our body, our internal bodily systems and our mind, and we expect drugs, operations and cosmetic procedures to fix it up after we’ve neglected it for far too long.

The one thing that will carry you through this life and allow you to follow your dreams is your body, and to look after the body we must look at the one thing that controls what we will and will not do for the body—‘your mind’.

Stop comparing yourself to others, why? Because there is no need to, you are a unique person, a one of a kind so to speak! There is no one in the world like you, there never has been and there never will be.

Even more so because by doing this you can become vein or bitter. Never think you will be enough, or that thinking you’re better than others is another trap. Remember, there will always be better and worse looking people, fitter, more intelligent, better writers, singers, better cooks … than you. But there is not one person who can do a better job of being you.

Self-Talk and the Self-image

Self-talk is the talking you do in your own head, about yourself and the things that happen to you. It’s your own running commentary about your life.

All too often this self-talk happens so automatically that you are barley aware of it. What you say to yourself can have a big effect on the way you feel, and on what you’re able to achieve.

Your self-talk can be likened to an internal coach, encouraging you, boosting your confidence, believing in you and motivating you to achieve your goals. Or it can be like an internal bully, undermining you, criticising you and beating up on you when you’re down.

Positive self-talk is the tool, not only for athletes, but for everyone who wants to achieve their greatness and rise above their fears and false beliefs about their true nature. We are spirit, we have an intellect and we control a body.

 Changing your self-talk

Three positive steps to changing that constant inner dialog are:

Identify your self-talk. It’s often so habitual that you may not be aware you are doing it at all. If you ever want to change your self-talk, you need to be aware of these thoughts as they happen.

Step 1

Take some time to notice the things you say to yourself during the course of one day. Having a small notepad and pen handy at all times is great for this exercise.

Step 2

Now assess your self-talk. Is it negative or positive? If you find its negative, ask yourself these questions–

Is there any evidence for this thought?

Is there any evidence against it?

Is this the way I would talk to a friend in the same position?

Is there a positive way I could view this situation?

Am I keeping this event in perspective?

Is it useful to be spending my energy thinking like this?

Step 3

Start changing your self-talk. When you decide your self-talk is unhelpful or just plain wrong, replace the negative thoughts with a more positive alternative. You may have to think of these alternatives in advance to be ready for the thought.

This can take some time with each area of your life you want to improve because the limiting self-talk is usually fairly ingrained. You may need to keep working on this simple 3 step process until it becomes second nature to realise as soon as it gets negative, and be able to change it right at that point.

What you want to happen here is for the new self-talk to eventually become second nature, unconscious behaviour and for positive self-talk to occur the majority of the time.

Exercise:

  1. Build the new image in the mind
  2. Set your goals for achieving your new image

To build this brand new self-image, create a draft of the person you will become. This doesn’t need to be long, though it does need to be concise and in the present tense.

Do not concern yourself with the “how’s” that will unfold; trust me here, and just build the picture of the new you. Always remember that success means different things to everyone, so don’t just write what you think would be great based, yet again, on someone else’s ideas of success. This is one pattern we all need to change before we can go anywhere.

Remember, the draft of the new you must be written in the present tense.  State clearly the person you want to be personally, spiritually, financially, emotionally and physically. What sort of relationships do you want to have? You can add that to your draft as well.

Next, you place your draft (a shortened version if you like) in every spot in your house that you visit often, so you will see it a lot. Have a copy in your wallet so you can pull it out and read it often as well. This is very important, because people change by constant, spaced repetition. This is how we learned to do math and our ABCs, and this, too, will help you redeem your self-image.

Commitment is what it takes. Believe you have it, and have it all now. Here is an example of how you write in the present tense:

I am so extremely happy now that I am………………………………………………………………………………………………

Now you need to set yourself some worthwhile goals in the areas of your life you want change, because without goals it can become a useless undertaking. Instant plastic surgeon.. :-)

self image articles by Lyn Collett